These children can't reason. I see this so many times where parents try to reason with their children on how to get them to stop doing a certain thing or stop them from playing with their toys because we have to get to another place, expecting them to understand why they have to listen to our requests.
Do not try to win! No one wins everyone looses if you and your child are upset and hurt.
Always prepare your child for change.
Make sure they have time to adapt to a change.
Let them know the chane is coming.
* If your child is old enough to understand time: In 2 minutes, please clean up your toys and we will have dinner
* If your child is too young to understand time: I am going to help you clean up your toys so we can eat dinner. I am going to count to 10 ( count slow) and then we will start cleaning up and have dinner.
* Don't forget to praise your child for good behavior!
If your child didn't do exactly what you expected, just let your child know he/ she can do better next time.
I know it may take while especially with children who were being pulled away from an activity before and not respected, but keep doing it, be consistent and do it with love not force and they will eventually start trusting you again and will know that you do respect their space and their feelings and you are there for them. It makes them feel safe and heard and everyone is happy.
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