Why is it so important to be Positive?

* Children need positive attention. If they receive positive attention they don't need to strive for negative attention through missbehavior, since to them that's better than no attention at all.

* Parents need to think positively about their children. Using words as "you can do so much better next time" , "you played so nicely", " that was very frustrating and you stayed calm and patient"

If parents lable their children negatively by saying how bad they are, they will believe this and that is how they will think of themselves.

*The positive discipline means, parents teach their children that there are consequences for misbehaving, while at the same time letting them know they are loved and expected to do better next time. Remember that every child has their unique temperament and therefore you need to adapt to the unique temperament and development of each child.

* Lack of praise and attention for appropriate behaviors leads to an increase in misbehavior. Children need praise, positive attention, rewards, smiles and hugs. They can not be expected to function without positive attention.

* Children's behavior does not need to be "perfect" to receive a praise. They need praise every time they are attempting a new behavior. They need reinforcement for every small step, otherwise if they have to wait until they have mastered the new behavior before being praised, they may give up altogether. The praising process sets a child up for success.